Book your flight to India, break out the Sari, grab the incense and practice your “Ohmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm” we’re about to talk Meditation!
Not quite your ideal way to spend your “me-time” – mine neither! The good news is that none of that has anything to do with Meditation. It’s fine if that’s what you want but it’s not a pre-requisite for meditation!
I often hear “yes, yes, I tried meditation once but I couldn’t do it”. The problem with that statement is what is “IT”?
“Well I couldn’t stop my thoughts from racing around inside my head”. That tells me that no one has properly explained to you what mediation really is. To understand what meditation really is perhaps the best starting place is what it isn’t.
Let’s look at the earlier statement “I couldn’t stop my thoughts from racing around inside my head”. Correct – that is the brain’s job. There will never be a time when you are without thought so it is entirely unrealistic to believe you will achieve that.
What meditation can do is help you focus on positive thoughts (eliminate negative thoughts and anxieties) energise you (relieve stress) and help you feel physically and mentally well. It helps you improve the quality of your life but it does take some practice but the reward for effort is substantial. Just as you can’t walk into a gym, do one workout and leave super fit, you can’t expect to start to meditate and nail it first time. At first don’t worry that you may only be able to do 5-10 but hey it’s a good start.
So here’s how … (Some of this will be familiar to my regular blogophites)
1. Turn off your mobile and create a quiet environment. If you have troubles with getting distracted I suggest nice relaxing music such as https://free-meditation-music.com/ but there are plenty of others.
2. Learn to identify where tension is stored in your body and to consciously release the tension through relaxation and controlled breathing. Lie still and focus your attention on your body. Become aware of any areas where your muscles feel tight and tense. Consciously allow these areas to relax and feel comfortable – visualise the tension leaving your body and feel yourself return to a calm relaxed body state. This sounds simple but it does require practice.
3. Focus on breathing slowly in and out and focus on relaxing your whole body and all your muscles. Slowly in and controlled exhale. In for 5, out for 6. In for 6, out for 8 etc.
4. Maintaining your relaxed body state and controlled breathing, as thoughts come to mind (and they certainly will) acknowledge them but do not dwell on them. Do not get annoyed as this will negatively energise them and ensure many more thoughts follow. As I noted earlier, thoughts entering your head is completely normal. Just accept the thought/s then let it/them go. With your in breath visualise bringing positive energy in and with your out breath breathe away any negative thoughts. With practice, thoughts will come less and let as you get “meditation fit”.
Before you know it you will have spent 20 or 30 minutes in this calm relaxed state and you will feel energised and invigorated.
Ever noticed how when you are in a good head space you get far more done and the world seems to be a far more cooperative place? Meditation is a way of consciously placing yourself into that calm, relaxed, good head space. You will find that 20 to 30 minutes of meditation will literally save you hours throughout your day as you will be able to better approach all situations with a calm mind.
By switching off from this tecky world and as I see it plugging into the universe, will through my experience, make you a calmer, happier more content person and less stress and pressure = more space for pleasure ?
Are You Ready To Experience More Pleasure?!
I look forward to being your personal coach and helping you have more fulfilling experiences
The Lady Of Pleasure - Australia